The mind is one of the most powerful tools for human beings.
It can help to build and create great things but it can also become one person’s worst enemy.
It’s such an interesting practice to observe how you own mind works, step outside the routine for a little and listen to what that inner voice tells you with everything you do…is it encouraging me? is it bringing me down?
Most of the time we treat others with respect and love but we don’t treat ourselves like that, our mind is extreme and not balanced, either it treats your self with a lack of love and trust producing negative thoughts such as “I can’t do this”, “I’m so dumb”, “I hate this”, “why me?”, and all sorts of cursing or it can go to the other extreme where in order to abstract from reality the mind produces thoughts like “I am never wrong”, “Everything I do is perfect”, “If people don’t agree with me that’s their problem, they’re wrong, I’m always right”.
Treating ourselves with love is more work than it appears to be, it starts with the recognition of our true being: We are just us, without any titles, degrees or bank accounts.
When we are in love we tend to give the person we love everything, we pay attention, we take them out, buy them gifts, ask how they are, how they feel, tell them we love them, but we don’t often do that with ourselves.
Whenever people get lonely (and it happens a lot) it’s not because other people don’t show love, appreciation or support, it’s because we need to become our best friend, we need to recognize the qualities and values in ourselves, love ourselves, be proud of ourselves without having to win anything, listen to ourselves, take care of ourselves.
How often do we find ourselves living a life we didn’t want? Like I wish I was healthier but I can’t, I try and I can’t. We need to support ourselves and be teach that voice in our head to love, respect, give and serve.