Life and Love are not two; they are one.
To love means to see and feel life in everything.
Life is here, life is there, life is everywhere.
There is nothing but life and there is also nothing but love.
-Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi Ki
Often when we pursue spiritual growth we pay attention on how we react, how we feel and how we progress.
After a while of continuing state of balance or comfort, our ego finds a way to trick us again into believing we are great at what we’re doing, things that bothered us before no longer do and we become more calm and selfless. But spiritual growth just like life is a path and not a destination, we never cease to learn and to face challenges. We don’t know it all.
Even in periods of comfort we must not stop our efforts to persevere in our spiritual path, we must practice it every day with every little thing we can, we have planted the seed of love in our heart and if it’s growing healthy we must keep watering it, keep allowing the sun to shine and enter, keep nurturing it, cleaning it and strengthen it.
Then the real tests begging to happen, when you are ready for them, you face situations that you didn’t see coming. You face the hurt that you have suffered before and it comes back strong. You are presented with a situation where you do not know what the right thing is to do. And what do you do? How do you react?
Do you go back to your usual ways and let ego take control?
You realize that a life without ego is an amazing human achievement worthy of saints. You understand you can’t eradicate your ego and you make peace with yourself knowing you are trying your best. And there you are in front a very important test.
A test that will move your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and the summary of your progress so far.
You face the truth of knowing that not everybody loves you, in fact some people despise you and have felt very negative things towards you, you are blamed for whatever choices you have made and you understand there is people that wish you harm instead of good.
The same people you have supported and loved, and cared for and appreciated, that presented to you as a friend and didn’t take long to reveal their true intentions.
What do you do? In the split second you have to choose your reaction, do you allow this negative tendencies to enter your heart?
Keep your heart strong and persevere, do not give in, a test is not supposed to be easy.
Accept what comes your way and be thankful for those who want to hurt you because the more they try, the less they can. The more they hurt themselves. You are protected. Trust in God, give your best effort and if you need help, just remember you are not alone.
“In everything, goodness is there, our goal is to find it. In every person, the best is there, our job is to recognize it.
In every situation, the positive is there, our opportunity is to see it. In every problem the solution is there, our responsibility is to provide it.
In every setback, the success is there, our adventure is to discover it.
In every crisis the reason is there, our challenge is to understand it.
By seeing the goodness, we’ll be very enthusiastic and our lives will be richer.”
– Brahma Kumaris
The mind is one of the most powerful tools for human beings.
It can help to build and create great things but it can also become one person’s worst enemy.
It’s such an interesting practice to observe how you own mind works, step outside the routine for a little and listen to what that inner voice tells you with everything you do…is it encouraging me? is it bringing me down?
Most of the time we treat others with respect and love but we don’t treat ourselves like that, our mind is extreme and not balanced, either it treats your self with a lack of love and trust producing negative thoughts such as “I can’t do this”, “I’m so dumb”, “I hate this”, “why me?”, and all sorts of cursing or it can go to the other extreme where in order to abstract from reality the mind produces thoughts like “I am never wrong”, “Everything I do is perfect”, “If people don’t agree with me that’s their problem, they’re wrong, I’m always right”.
Treating ourselves with love is more work than it appears to be, it starts with the recognition of our true being: We are just us, without any titles, degrees or bank accounts.
When we are in love we tend to give the person we love everything, we pay attention, we take them out, buy them gifts, ask how they are, how they feel, tell them we love them, but we don’t often do that with ourselves.
Whenever people get lonely (and it happens a lot) it’s not because other people don’t show love, appreciation or support, it’s because we need to become our best friend, we need to recognize the qualities and values in ourselves, love ourselves, be proud of ourselves without having to win anything, listen to ourselves, take care of ourselves.
How often do we find ourselves living a life we didn’t want? Like I wish I was healthier but I can’t, I try and I can’t. We need to support ourselves and be teach that voice in our head to love, respect, give and serve.